This week "My Wife Asks..."
It seems to me your views about gay marriage may be changing. Is that true? If so, what’s up with that?
Hmmmm, how to tackle this one?
Let me first tell you where I sit, before I tell you where I stand. I am a small "L" libertarian, which means that I am a fiscal conservative and a social liberal (the former more so than the latter). My first principle is to support and promote fiscal responsibility in government: balanced budgets, low deficits, low tax rates, low spending, etc. Notice I didn't say "no" deficits, tax rates, spending, etc. I said "low" because I believe in small/limited government (I'm not an anarchist), and even a small/limited government needs money.
My second principle is to support and promote independence, liberty, and freedom, both in society and economically. I believe that I know how best to live my life and spend my money. I am a Federalist, which means that I believe that our Founders intentionally created a government where power is SHARED between national and state governments. I believe that the federal government has enumerated powers expressly laid out in the Constitution (and that they long ago overstepped on those powers). I believe that our Constitution was created to limit government, not as a tool to limit it's citizenry. As Edmund Opitz once said, "
No one can read our Constitution without concluding that the people who wrote it wanted their government severely limited; the words “no” and “not” employed in restraint of government power occur 24 times in the first seven articles of the Constitution and 22 more times in the Bill of Rights."
Finally, I wish that the Founders would have put the 10th Amendment first (Pop Quiz: Without looking online, say aloud the 10th Amendment). If you don't remember, the 10th Amendment states
The powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States, are reserved to the States respectively, or to the people.
With all that said, I have come to the belief that there are many, many, MANY issues that are better left in the hands of state governments to handle, and gay marriage should be one of those issues.
In my world view, marriage would be seen by the federal government as a contract between two consenting adults. In the government's eyes, all marriages would be civil unions.
I would first eliminate the federal Defense of Marriage Act, as I believe it is an example of the federal government meddling in an issue that is not theirs to decide.
This would then leave it up to each individual state government and their citizenry to define which consenting adults could enter into the marriage contract. States would decide how old both parties would need to be. Some states would allow two 16 year olds to marry. Others would set the age higher. But it would be up to each state to decide.
In the same way, some (and, I would hope, eventually all) states would recognize all marriages, regardless of the gender of the parties involved (and, hopefully, they would do so legislatively, as Vermont and New Hampshire have done, and not rely upon judicial fiat to decide the issue in their state). Some states might never recognize same-sex marriage. My remedy to those gay couples who live in such a state would be for them to convince their fellow citizens to change their mind or, as a last resort, move to a state that does recognize same-sex marriages. (Similar to how some people leave a state that has too high of a tax rate and move to a state that has a lower tax rate.)
Also, I would like the federal government to switch from an income tax to a consumption tax as a way to eliminate the need for the federal government to get involved in the matter. This would eliminate tax breaks and incentives for married couples, thereby eliminating the current bias in favor of hetero marriages.
Is my solution perfect? No. Are there flaws within my proposed solution? Yes there are (probably more then I can currently see). But my solution would be wholly consistent with my libertarian and Federalist principles.
Thoughts, comments, and critiques are welcome in the comment section below. And feel free to leave your comments anonymously if you would like.
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ALBUM:
Boston by Boston -- with such hits as "More Than a Feeling," "Long Time," "Rock and Roll Band," "Let Me Take You Home Tonight," and "Peace of Mind," it's no wonder that this is the second-best selling debut album of all time.
NETFLIX:
The Ultimate Fighter: Season 11 -- I just finished the first disc of this season, and it was fantastic. Thanks, in large part, to UFC President Dana White, this series gets better and better with each season.
BOOK:
"Are You Kidding Me?: The Story of Rocco Mediate's Extraordinary Battle with Tiger Woods at the US Open" by John Feinstein and Rocco Mediate -- I recently purchased this book on eBay. I am excited to read the story from Rocco's perspective and compare that to my memories from watching the event on television.
SPOILER ALERT!!!!: With regard to the television show "Castle," I've discovered that a vast majority of the time, the murderer is the character (who isn't one a regular on the show) who speaks first. Feel free to try out my theory the next time you watch an episode.